As long as you feel happy, that's all that matters.

 　　Life is full of comparisons. In the eyes of the world, studies, work, marriage, and children can all be objects of comparison. Whether we like it or not, in reality, most of us are not far removed from this "cliché."

　　Of course, the things people are compared to are different at different ages. In school, it's grades; after graduation, it's jobs, and things like family background and power. Suddenly, someone like "someone else's kid" appears, someone who excels in every aspect, making us feel inferior.

　　When I was a child, my parents often talked about this "someone else's kid," and because they talked about him so often, his image still often appears in my mind. Although I don't know who this person is, I still have great respect for him because he was not only excellent in character and academics but also hardworking and conscientious, without a single flaw.

　　I thought that after leaving school, these comparisons would stop, but little did I know that another comparison about work had quietly begun. When we stand at the school gate for group photos, when we sit in the classroom reminiscing about the past, the most common topics of conversation are who found a stable job, and how much so-and-so earns each month. These seemingly casual conversations are actually the beginning of another "comparison journey." I've never liked comparisons, and I'm too lazy to argue with others. Most of the time, they compare theirs, and I just quietly observe. But sometimes, when they cross my line, I take it seriously and argue with them.

　　For a time, I worked as a teller at a bank. It was a month before the Spring Festival, and I, as a newbie, was transferred to the branch with the highest business volume in the area. To do my job well, I got up before 6 a.m. every day and didn't get off work until after 8 p.m., without a lunch break. Sometimes, when things got busy, I didn't even have time to eat or go to the bathroom. Later, a friend compared my job with hers, saying, "Your job is easy; you can enjoy air conditioning in the bank every day." I couldn't help but refute her. This was the first time I warned someone against making comparisons.

　　Refraining from comparisons is both a sign of respect for others and a recognition of oneself. "You are not a fish, how can you know the joy of a fish?" You are not me, so how could you know my sacrifices? Krishnamurti said that one should know oneself and accept oneself as one is, so don't easily compare yourself to others. If one is always thinking about competing with others, one day it will drag oneself down.

　　In fact, everyone's work and life are different, there is no basis for comparison. Many times, many things, how others see them is not important, the key is that you feel happy.