Emerson said: "Your kindness must have an edge."
Some people seem amiable and easy to get along with. You see them, they never hold grudges, never look gloomy, and always greet you with a smile. But they are never "scarred," and at crucial moments, they can "retreat unscathed," leaving those who scheme against them disappointed.
Truly intelligent people all possess an "edge." Although they smile, speak warmly, and don't provoke anyone, they are not to be trifled with. Their "edge" is manifested in the following aspects:
First, they know how to protect themselves: "I will not offend others unless they offend me; if they offend me, I will retaliate."
Many people have probably read "Demi-Gods and Semi-Devils," which tells the story of many heroic figures, including many intelligent ones, such as Qiao Feng and Duan Yu. However, I personally believe that the truly intelligent person is the "sweeping monk" who appears later in the story. He lurks in the library, knowing everyone coming and going intimately. Among a group of martial arts masters, he is surprisingly more skilled, able to fight them off and even help resolve long-standing grudges, ultimately creating harmony. A
truly intelligent person is like that "sweeping monk"—they can live peacefully in ordinary times, avoiding conflict, but in crucial moments, no one should provoke them or underestimate them. Their abilities are extraordinary, yet they remain hidden.
An intelligent person, when there is no conflict of interest, is just an ordinary person, one of the masses. However, when wronged, another side emerges to protect their interests. For example, if someone tries to steal their money, they will fight to the bitter end, ensuring the other party suffers; if someone plots against them, they will retaliate "quietly" and subtly.
We often say, "To be overly honest is foolish." A wise person may appear honest, but has inner strength and won't be taken advantage of or become a scapegoat.
Secondly, they know how to temper their temper: avoiding hurting others and themselves.
"What's the use of always being angry? You're just a fool." Anger solves nothing; you might be sulking all day, but afterwards you still have to face life and solve problems. Anger is a waste of time.
Therefore, wise people control their temper. A person with a bad temper will casually curse and blame others, only to find later that their temper has offended and hurt many people. Anger can also trigger illnesses, especially heart disease. Many say "illnesses come from anger," and there's some truth to that.
Instead of being angry, strive for excellence. Wise people control their temper and maintain composure; even in the face of major issues, they can speak calmly and leave a good impression.
A person should have sharp edges, but not be overly assertive. If you get angry, you're exposing your sharpness, creating unpleasantness between people without solving the problem. Smart people talk things out with others to find solutions, often finding a breakthrough more easily.
Third, learn to be indifferent: there's no need to even look at those who look down on you.
Some people should have been offended long ago. For example, those who look down on you, constantly ridicule you, or always undermine your career... If someone treats you badly, you really don't need to be "too nice" to them.
"Birds of a feather flock together." If you're always trying to please and flatter those who aren't on the same page, they'll look down on you and might even take advantage of you. For example, they might want to do something but think it's unreliable, so they'll encourage you to do it first, letting you "try it out," and if it fails, you'll be the "scapegoat."
Some people you'll never fit into any "circle" with, so you need to learn to "leave the group." From now on, everyone goes their own way. Neither offend nor flatter; respond to others as they treat you.
Ma De said: You may not bully anyone, but you must have the courage and spirit to not be bullied.
Kindness is often taken advantage of; don't be too kind and honest. In this world, you must at least live with dignity.
Is it necessary to associate with those who hope you'll never rise again?
Is it necessary to passively accept those who hope to trample on you?
I hope you will bravely resist when violated.
I hope you possess sharpness, and use it wisely, neither hurting others nor being hurt yourself.
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