One day, my wife said to me mysteriously, "Do you know what Yu'er said to me?" I asked doubtfully, "What did she say?" I thought the child probably just wanted something delicious or fun. I couldn't imagine what strange ideas might pop into this eight-year-old's head. Usually, children talk to their mothers about everything, so I didn't think much of it at the time.
What my wife said next shocked me. She said, "Yu'er said, 'Let's kick Daddy out!'"
"Why?" the wife asked, regaining her composure.
"Look how badly he treats you, yelling at you. He's also mean to me, hitting me all the time, and taking my food from me..." The child listed many of my faults. The little guy is clever; in order to "attack" me, he also listed the "suffering" his mother endured, hoping to gain her support and build a united front.
What the child said wasn't wrong. I have a quick temper, and sometimes when I get anxious, I inevitably raise my voice at my wife, but I don't mean any harm. The child sees and remembers all of this. I often use the banner of "educating the child" to deal with his mistakes in a simple and crude way, without properly communicating with him. Sometimes, though, I'm just teasing him on purpose. But all of this is "unforgivable" in the child's eyes.
His wife teased him, saying, "Then where will Dad stay?"
"Let him sleep on the streets." The little guy had a good idea.
"Then you don't have a father anymore?" the wife continued to ask her son calmly.
"Then you won't go find another one?" The little one easily enlightened and enlightened her mother.
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"Yu'er also said she didn't want me to tell you what we talked about," my wife added. Hearing this, I couldn't help but laugh. "That little rascal!" I muttered to myself. Then my happy laughter turned into a helpless laugh, followed by utter surprise.
Yu'er is a very clever, mischievous, lively, and adorable child. Children often say things without thinking, not because they truly dislike their father. He was both angry and anxious when I teased him about "being a father to other children."
However, what my wife said today was very educational.
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