Adolescence inevitably brings these kinds of questions: "What score did you get on this test?" "If you get this score again, you're fired!" "Look at others, how are they worse than you! Ugh, you're really something."
Yes, these are often the kinds of words our parents say that we find incredibly annoying. Faced with such words, I always rebelled in my heart: If you're so capable, go and have someone else be your child! That's someone else's child, not mine. After returning to my room, I would smash my things, and after calming down, I would reorganize them (of course, this is a negative coping mechanism, readers shouldn't imitate it!). I think everyone has experienced this. Let me tell you about my worries.
Whenever I do well on a test, my mother would ask me, "How many people in your class did better than you?" If I said quite a few, she would say, "Then you're not that good."
I remember once, I ranked in the top ten in my class on the midterm exam, and my mother was very happy. When I went to the parent-teacher conference, my mom's friend told her that I did very well on the test, while her son did poorly. My mom came home and told me I made her proud. But when I don't do well, she asks a classmate who did lower than me last time, and when she finds out they did higher, she comes home and tells me I embarrassed her at the conference. This makes me feel like I'm just a tool for them to save face, and it makes me very unhappy. So, almost all my classmates are like me—if they do well, they show their parents their test papers; if they do poorly, they act like nothing happened. It's not out of fear, but simply because of their parents' lack of understanding.
I believe many people face this situation; parents always like to compare us to our peers. What can we do in this situation?
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